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McKinney Teens The Best Place to live for whom

Tiffany Sanders - Wednesday, July 08, 2015

The incident in McKinney, TX where the police manhandled a 14-year-old girl and drew his weapon on unarmed black teens is very disturbing. What’s ironic is that McKinney was voted last year as the best place to live. But for whom? Middle class whites that are oblivious to there white privilege and who don’t have to worry about the police drawing their weapons on their children. Or for blacks who appear to be treated like second-class citizens because of the color of the skin.

Police officers are professionals who are there to serve and protect, and not to escalate tenuous situations with erratic behavior. Clearly this cop, Eric Casebolt, was out of control, running off emotions, throwing children to the ground while cursing at the remaining telling them to go home. He doesn’t deserve to be police officer

Mr. Casebolt blamed his behavior on two suicide calls that he responded to earlier that day. Understand this, if you can’t handle the heat, get out of the kitchen! Many of us have high-pressure positions but we cannot use that as a lame excuse for manhandling and drawing guns on teens. We must use appropriate coping skills to stay calm or excuse ourselves from doing said work, if we feel we cannot manage ourselves or our emotions enough to be level headed and rationale in a time of need.

I was pleased, yet terribly disappointed to hear that the officer resigned from the force with a “heavy heart.” What about the racing, scared, panic stricken teens’ hearts – were you considering that when you did your barrel role?  

Mr. Casebolt you owe these teens and their parents a sincere apology. As I stated you don’t deserve to be an officer for the McKinney force, but somewhere in the future, you will likely get another police position in the best place to live, small town America and resurrect your fledging career. This infamous act will be forgotten, and your pension will be intact. Lucky you.

Rachel Dolezal and Understanding Racial Identity

Tiffany Sanders - Wednesday, July 08, 2015

The Rachel Dolezal story is mind-blowing, confusing and electrifying. Never in a million years would I think a white woman would fully embrace the burdens, challenges and difficulties of being a black woman. Yet, Rachel Dolezal, a blonde hair blue eyed woman for 25 years, donned on some beautiful natural hair wigs, wore braids, tanned her skin, and created an elaborate rouse that included borrowing a black father and son to convince the world the she indeed was a black woman.  She embraced the black experience so much that she taught a wide variety Africana studies classes, became a leader of the local NAACP chapter and served as chair the police oversight committee.

But why? What on earth would make a woman lie to so many people knowing that one person could out her in a moment’s notice? Couldn’t she have been an ally for the black community without fabricating untrue stories? Is she mentally unstable, searching for attention? Or is she just a misguided woman with altruistic intentions but the execution commensurate of a buffoon? Even more puzzling is why would her parents throw her under the bus in such a vocal manner?

People have the right to be up in arms about this story. Rachel Dolezal lied for 10 years duping people to believe that she was in fact a black woman. But that’s not the main reason parts of Black America are upset with her. People are upset that she CHOSE to live as black woman, and she can CHOOSE to live as a white woman with all rights and privileges restored while everyday black folks can’t shed their blackness in favor of being white for a day.

Yes, Rachel Dolezal’s integrity is shot to hell, but that doesn’t mean that her intentions weren’t altruistic. Shaming and ridiculing Rachel Dolezal isn’t the answer. Instead let’s take time to understand her motives, get her counseling, and teach her how to embrace and identify with black culture and defend its plight and honor without misappropriation and denying herself of her true heritage. Let’s also use this opportunity to shine light on and create future dialogue about the issues blacks face in an alleged post-racial society versus ridiculing Rachel for pretending to be someone whom she’s not.

Happy Birthday America

Tiffany Sanders - Monday, July 06, 2015

With our nation’s birthday last weekend, there are bound to be endless house parties, celebrations, fireworks and parades to celebrate the 4th of July. Yes, we should celebrate our independence from Britain, but in 240 years since our liberation, America is still dealing with atrocities of slavery, segregation, institutional racism and oppression.

On a National level, the recent attack on Mother Emmanuel in Charleston, shooting death of Tamir Rice, McKinney Pool party fiasco and Freddy Gray’s death just to name a few, spotlight that America has a long way to go with its race relations.

President Obama took a lot of heat when he used the N-word in discussion about racism isn’t as overt as it was in the past. I beg to differ; it’s overt and covert. Matter of fact, just the other day as I was taking a walk, an old white man was jaywalking in the street and had the nerve to get mad at a car driven by a black man that abruptly stopped to avoid hitting him. His response was to the man wasn’t thank you, but to drop the F-bomb and call the other driver a Nigger. 

Racism in America is systemic and systematic. As blacks we need to work collectively to come up with a solid plan to ensure our agenda matters. Too often those things that don’t matter, but are good fodder for water cooler discussion such as Rachel Dolezal identity crisis are distracting us.

We must define our interests, develop and cultivate our next group of leaders and activists such as the young lady Bree Newsome who scaled a pole to yank down the confederate flag. We need to leverage our buying power so that banks and businesses do business with us on our terms versus the predatory lending and practices that we’ve become accustomed to. Lastly, we must be willing to set aside our personal agendas to advance the interests of us all.  Other groups have done it and now it’s our turn.

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